Every day, we inevitably encounter all kinds of unpleasant things and meet some people who are not in line with our eyes. If you are narrow-minded, lack tolerance and generosity, and fail to learn to maintain inner peace, then anger can rush over your heart and affect your emotions. After all, anger doesn't solve anything, but can cause a lot of trouble at work, in life, and in relationships. At the same time, it can also have a negative impact on the body and make you feel depressed.

So don't get upset. To be angry means to pay for the mistakes of others, to punish yourself for others, to hurt your own body for the benefit of others. As the philosopher Senel said, "Of all emotions, anger is the most abhorrent and the most violent." ”

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To be angry is to actually punish yourself for someone else's mistakes.

Some people say, "Why be angry?" What a stupid act! It can harm your health and put you in an awkward situation. To get angry with yourself for some trivial or unimportant outsider, to make trouble for yourself and to make others proud, only fools and fools would do that!

A person is usually angry because someone else's rudeness offends him, or because someone else's selfishness violates his or her rights. In order to express the dissatisfaction in his heart, anger arises spontaneously.

However, no matter why you are angry, can the problem be solved? Will those who bullied you apologize to you? It often ends in nothing, leaving you with only your anger. What's more, things may become more complicated as a result, and those who bully you will be more proud of your anger. So, why punish yourself and make others happy!

Understand that being angry means that you can't get along with yourself, which leads to restless eating, poor sleep, a mess in your life, and a bad job. The body is damaged, and you can only bear it yourself, and when you are sick, no one cares, and in the end it is you who are injured.

All the time, when I'm unhappy, the first thing I think about is, can I fix it? If I could, I would try to fix it; If I can't, I choose not to dwell on it, accept it calmly, and let it go.

Therefore, I want to open a little, look down, my body hurts by myself, and I take care of my mood.

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Anger begins with stupidity and ends with regret.

Aesop once said that people need to be gentle and not overly angry, because anger often leads to great calamity for irritable people.

When you're angry, 90% of your actions are wrong. It's like when you hear someone talk about you, and if you get angry, you fall into their hands. As the saying goes, "If you're serious, you're losing." ”

Because, your anger will throw the family into chaos; Let the career plummet; Let life and fate go wrong. So, don't let anger hit your heart, don't let anger blind you. Take a step back and open the sky, think twice before doing things, and wait and see what happens, in order to deal with it calmly.

A friend complained: "Once I went out and didn't look at the yellow calendar, it didn't go well at first. I was about to be late for work, so I took a taxi when I went out, but I waited for half an hour and the car didn't arrive. So I vented all my emotions on the driver, complaining that he was late, however, when I got out of the car, I don't know if it was because the driver stopped, or I was too anxious, and accidentally stepped on the air, not only broke my foot, but also was deducted from my salary. ”

After all, the structure of the word "anger" is that the top is a slave, and the bottom is the heart. Once you fall into the trap of anger, you will become a slave to the mentality, and you will be led by the nose by the word "angry". So, if you want to avoid regrets, if you want to avoid unprovoked harm to yourself, you must learn to control your emotions.

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Instead of being angry, it is better to be angry; Instead of complaining, change.

Everyone has seven emotions and six desires. It's just that some people know how to control their emotions to make them a little more happy and a little less sad. Some people don't know how to restrain their individuality, and always think that anger can suppress others, but it leads to fewer friends and life becomes more difficult.

Be generous and don't get angry. As people often say, "the prime minister can hold the boat in his belly".

Be good-tempered and don't get angry easily. As the saying goes, "Three smiles a day, life is hard to grow old; Three annoyances a day, not old and old".