It's really difficult to be a human being, work and life, marriage and family, birth, old age, sickness and death, are all caught in fate.

There are always some lows in life, unemployment, divorce, and illness, which give you a hard blow to you, who was originally happy.

There's not even a rehearsal, and the unexpected comes, and you can't escape it yet.

Since you can't hide, it's better to face it positively.

Just like the writer Shi Tiesheng, he suddenly lost his health and relied on a wheelchair to live, but because of this, he walked out of a different life path.

A few sentences from his pen, read more, and there will be hope and direction in the confusion.

01

About dreams: If you look forward to the future from the position of your childhood, you will say that your future is uncertain, you will say that you have a bright future; But if you stand at the end of your life and look at the trajectory of your life, you only see one path, you can only see one path of destiny.

When Shi Tiesheng was still young, he was called "Little Flyer" by his classmates and participated in running competitions many times. He also wants to be an athlete.

Radio and fine arts, too, he likes. I also studied harder because of this.

But an illness made him disabled, and all his dreams came to naught.

struggled, messed up, and was confused, but in the end, he chose to pick up the pen and change the trajectory of his dreams. Becoming a writer surprised even him.

What about us? When I was a child, I told my teacher that I wanted to be a doctor, a soldier, etc. The teacher also praised it, this dream is good.

In a flash, we were forty or fifty years old, and we found that we were ordinary migrant workers. Or they have been farming and have long forgotten their childhood dreams.

In his later years, looking back, the so-called bright future is nothing more than a crooked road.People, in the end, will not go down the route originally designed.

If you lose your dreams, you can still live well, or if you change your dreams a few times, it is not a regret, but the courage to go on.

02

About the state of mind: the sun, it is the setting sun and the rising sun at all times, when it goes out and walks down the mountain to collect the desolate afterglow, it is the time when it burns on the other side and climbs to the top of the mountain to spread the blazing sunrise.

People who are confused have a cold heart, and they are not interested in seeing anything when they open their eyes. Eating and drinking, I feel like it's a waste of food.

There are even people who don't want to live anymore.

But when Shi Tiesheng was most depressed, he found the secret to changing his mentality. Whatever makes you low is meant to make you go to another high place.

When the sun sets, it's not worth your sorrow, because the sun is just going to light up the other side of the earth; Without the sun, the moon came.

The sunset you see is actually the sunrise that others see.

From the perspective of life, your bride may be someone else's old love; Your new position is someone else's old position; The new unit you go to is where someone else retires...... Everything is alternating, so why should you let your mood stay in a sad place.

There is a saying that if the heart is sunny, the flowers will bloom in all seasons.

03

About family affection: I thought I was the most unfortunate one in the world, not knowing that my son's misfortune was always doubled by his mother.

For a period of time after his illness, Shi Tiesheng was very uncomfortable and closed himself off.

As for the mother, she is always silently on the sidelines. His mother encouraged Shi Tiesheng to go to the Temple of Earth.

Shi Tiesheng sat in a wheelchair and went to the Temple of Earth, thinking that he was far away from his mother. Suddenly I turned around, only to find that my mother was watching from a short distance.

It turns out that when children are desperate, parents are doubly desperate. When their children go far away, parents will be worried, and they will desperately try to know the news of their children.

We have stepped out of the sight of our parents, but we have never stepped out of the concern of our parents.

When we are confused, it also happens to be the time when parents are most worried. During the time you can't see, your parents guess your mood and help you find a job.

When we came home, our parents were always laughing and encouraging you. And when we weren't at home, our parents might have wiped a handful of tears.

When we understand the love of our parents, maybe our parents are gone.

Yes, we are not lonely people after all, with parents behind us. We got lost, and the big deal was to go back to our parents' house, tidy ourselves up, and set off again.

04

About couples: Disability is the setting of life, and love is the salvation of life.

Shi Tiesheng sat in a wheelchair and walked slowly. met a woman who felt sorry for him.

Chen Ximi is also a disabled person.

The same is the end of the world, why should we have met before? Fortunately, when we meet, we have love, no matter how hard it is, we can feel each other. Because I understand, I won't let go.

In decades of marriage, women are Stetson's legs and eyes.

Stetson said to his wife, "Himi, Himi, you child who has drifted along the water, you joy that comes with the wind. ”

His wife's response to him was "Let the "Dead" Live".

是啊，死都不怕，还怕什么活啊？夫妻在一起，就算活一万年，都不觉得太多。

All the days of confusion are just days to test love.Your lover is your guiding light, who is here to save you. Why are you embarrassed not to go along?

Don't worry, even if you are walking alone, you will not be lonely, because you still have a "sweetheart".

05

About the body: Being sick is also a kind of life experience, and it can even be regarded as a unique experience.

作家韩少功这样评价过史铁生：“我以为1991年的小说即使只有他一篇《我与地坛》，也完全可以说是丰年。”

Yes, because of my physical disability, I can't go far, so I have a long-term observation of a place, I have a mental interaction with the people around me, and I have unforgettable sentences.

On the contrary, those who walk fast, at a glance, know nothing about anyone.

I have to say,When God gives you a pain, it will also give you a key to happiness.

There are two sides to everything. Sick too.

The illness of a teenager is the realization of more life; Middle-aged illness is a warning to you, less overtime and stay up late; Sickness in old age is a natural change in the body.

Every time you get sick, you pay attention to your body. You slowly discover that health is a wealth, so why trade health for money? I really have been disabled all my life, and that disability is another kind of beauty.

06

The so-called happiness in life is actually a paradox.

Happiness would not exist without suffering.

Therefore, all the confusion will make you suddenly enlightened, sooner or later.

Of course, to get out of confusion, not to sit and wait, but to read some wise words and see how people do it. If you look at people as a mirror, you will know what to do.

Maybe there won't be the sun tomorrow, but tomorrow it will be dawn.