Adolescent boys and girls often chat together after school and walk together after school, do parents need to worry? Or do you need to talk to the kids about the sense of boundaries?

This question is a feeling.

My daughter is in the seventh grade, and after the beginning of this semester, she and the two classmates (a boy and a girl) in the class had a good time, the three of them chatted together after class, and after school, they chatted together for a while before going home separately, and my daughter often told me about interesting things between them.

My daughter said that it was nice to study and chat with her friends.

I was happy for her, but at the same time there was a little loss in my heart.

I have to admit that when children reach adolescence, they prefer to play with their peers, and parents can't compare.

Unexpectedly, one day, the mother of one of the boys in my classmates came to me and gently reminded me to pay attention to the boundaries of the children's interactions.

I understand that her concern is nothing more than the fear that the children's early love will affect their learning.

I wonder if she's too worried.

In fact, most of the time it was 3 kids playing together (and later a boy from the next class was added), just because my daughter and her son were elementary school classmates, and our two families were on the way, plus two or three times after school, the two kids bought drinks in a snow and ice town near the school.

Maybe this made her a little nervous.

As far as I know, every time my daughter talks about her friends, it's just a funny story or a funny video.

That male classmate is really nothing special to my daughter.

I talked to my daughter about it, and she said that we thought too much, that they were just friends, and that there was a little friend, and sometimes a boy from the next class would join them. That said, they often chat with four people, which is really nothing.

I understood the boy's mother's concerns, and I sincerely explained them to her, and at the same time reassured her that I would pay attention to them, hoping to ease her anxiety.

I talked about this in our small group of girlfriends, and a friend said, your family is a girl, and her family is a boy, you don't worry, but she is worried first, is the order reversed?

Maybe she's just one child, so she's a little more nervous, I said.

Another friend said that our big treasures are girls after all, and at this stage of puberty, we really need to pay more attention to them as mothers, and the safety of adolescent girls is more worthy of attention than early love.

My friend was right, I had a feeling of enlightenment. My daughter is like a tomboy, and I really don't worry too much about early love, but she goes to and from school by herself every day, and I really want to remind her about her safety.

Next, a few of us moms discussed the safety issues girls may encounter during adolescence.

If there is a daughter at home, the safety of adolescence should be taken seriously, and parents should not care.

First of all, parents should let their children know that life is precious and that it is not worth paying for it at any time.

When a child feels pressured to study, or has conflicts with friends, or is misunderstood by teachers, she may be annoyed, anxious, and even unable to think about it, but girls, there is only one life, and there is no hurdle that cannot be overcome.

Let go of your worries, get a good night's sleep, and maybe the next day the weather will be clear.

Second, in terms of campus safety, including dressing appropriately, being careful when alone with male teachers, and daring to resist school violence.

In the face of school violence, parents must firmly support their child, comfort her, give her encouragement, and give her strength.

Third, don't smoke, drink, or touch drugs, and stay away from black cars and bars.

Fourth, be cautious when dealing with strangers, don't send strangers home easily, don't drink drinks given by strangers, etc.

Children are kind, and some bad people grasp this by showing weakness, such as asking for directions, asking a girl to take him somewhere, or praising the girl for being cute and beautiful, and giving her a drink, which is actually something else. Girls, keep their eyes open.

Fifth, although puppy love is beautiful, the result is often bitter, and girls should pay attention to the size of their interactions with boys, and even more so to cherish their bodies, and not easily deliver them so as not to be hurt.

When it is found that the child has signs of early love, parents should not simply and rudely accuse and stop it, which will make the child disgusted and rebellious. You can quietly care for her, accompany her, and distract her, maybe it is just a small episode in the child's life, and it will pass quickly.

Sixth, the Internet is a double-edged sword, it provides convenience to people, and it is easy for people to indulge in it, especially when girls should be cautious when meeting with netizens.

For mobile phones, video games, etc., parents still have to do a good job of supervision to prevent girls from becoming addicted.

Finally, girls should remember that self-esteem and self-love are the prerequisite for protecting themselves, and when they are strong enough and intelligent inside, the bad guys simply cannot get close.

In short, girls need to be more aware of safety, stay away from danger, and learn how to protect themselves.

Of course, parents should not take it lightly if there are boys in the family, and it is equally important for boys to strengthen their safety awareness.

Youth is beautiful, full of hope, and a brilliant and beautiful time in the lives of girls. However, behind the splendor is actually full of unknowns, accidents, and even dangers. And because of their lack of social experience, simple thinking, and weak sense of prevention, girls undoubtedly provide opportunities for some bad guys.

Therefore, girls should be vigilant, enhance their awareness of prevention, and learn more skills and methods of self-protection.

I hope that the girls can have a beautiful youth, smile wantonly in the good years, and live up to their youth.

Proofread by Zhuang Wu