The 36-episode TV series "The Second Half of My Life" ushered in the finale, and Shen Zhuoran invited the three "blind dates" he met successively - the head nurse Lian Yilian, the worker's eldest sister Lu Yuan, the makeup artist Le Shuishan, and his relatives and friends to have a grand Mid-Autumn Festival banquet together.
During the banquet, Shen Duole, his grandson who has studied abroad, also met Shen Zhuoran's "soul mate" - Professor Nie Juanjuan abroad, and they sent a video call to Shen Zhuoran.
After experiencing Lao Gou's sudden death, Shen Zhuoran also began to accept the impermanence of fate and the fact that his life had entered the countdown, he was no longer obsessed with finding a partner to resist loneliness and old age, and relieved that four "romances" ended in vain.
For these twists and turns and absurd experiences, Professor Shen Zhuoran is more grateful.
He personally cooked, and made "snow cabbage edamame" taught by "Aunt Lian", "dumplings" taught by Comrade Lu Yuan, "white fungus and red date health porridge taught by Aunt Le", and dim sum taught by Professor Nie.
Although the four of them were all passers-by of his life, and they all brought him different injuries for various reasons, Shen Zhuoran valued the happiness they brought him, the joy they brought him, and the different life feelings they brought him.
This is probably the biggest difference between a professor and ordinary people, Professor Shen is better at summarizing, and he is also able to tolerate and treat individual differences and discover the brilliance of human nature.
He said to his three children - son Shen Qing, daughter Shen Dai, and daughter-in-law Liu Lina (although Lina had divorced Shen Qing at this time, in Shen Zhuoran's heart, she had always regarded Lina as her daughter):
In the past, I was afraid of old age, loneliness, and no one to accompany me, so I was always looking for support.
I have been defeated many times, but I have learned a lot of skills, and I have a lot of insights!
I think now, this man, if you are good, then everything is good;
If you screw it, screw it up for everything!
Therefore, the iron still has to be hard!
After making a "love summary", Shen Zhuoran turned to Liu Lina and said:
Lina, our family is under your care, and today I want to thank you on behalf of the whole family!
We all thought that was what you should do as a daughter-in-law, but in fact, it was you who took the initiative to take on the responsibility that belonged to us.
Shen Qing is a workaholic, and it is also because of your solid backing.
Lina, don't be afraid that no one will appreciate you, don't be afraid of being lonely, I don't care what happens to you and Shen Qing in the future, you will always be the daughter of my Shen family.
The cause you are doing now, no matter what difficulties you encounter, you will bravely rush forward, and we will also be your strong backing.
Daddy has your back!
The words of the "father-in-law" moved Lina to tears.
She thought that no one saw her dedication and sacrifice, so she was wronged, she was unwilling, and her various hysteria was not caused by not being valued and understood.
Shen Zhuoran then said to the children:
When you were young, your parents and teachers demanded that you be very good and excellent!
But now that I'm old, I just want my children to be happy and happy!
I'm going to announce to you today an important decision, I'm moving to a nursing home!
First, there are a lot of people and it is lively, and second, I can also help take care of Lao Ding and be a companion with him!
Several children disagreed, and Shen Dai even said: "Dad, it turns out that you are cooking such a big table of dishes, and you are eating loose meals with us!" ”
Shen Zhuoran waved his hand, and then said with emotion:
We Chinese are not good at expressing ourselves and saying things that we feel numb.
Today Dad, I want to boldly say once, children, you are all my good children, Dad, love you! Love you guys!
The happy ending of "The Second Half of My Life" is touching and thought-provoking.
Yes, as Chinese people, it is our virtue to be subtle and introverted, and we are not good at expressing feelings with the closest people, thinking that it is good to just do it.
But in fact, language is also a magic weapon to heal the soul, a bridge to communicate and convey love, Shen Zhuoran's relief, open-mindedness, and his deep love and respect for his children have been sublimated in his language.
As a light comedy, some people say that it is hyping up the "silver economy", but I want to say that as long as it can bring us happiness, enlightenment and educational significance, it is worthy of recognition and has its value.
作为一个逐渐步入“老龄化”的大国，每年都有近千万人步入六十岁这道“门槛”，可见关注老年人的生理和心理健康，以及怎么为他们营造一个温馨又舒适的社会环境，会成为我们这个社会的重要话题。
And "The Second Half of My Life" is to further explore and think about the emotional life of the elderly, as well as getting along with their children, and integrating with society.
Shen Zhuoran, a university professor and a well-known scholar, has a lot of retirement income, lives in a high-end community, and has a simple family relationship, which can be described as a winner in life.
But even such a social elite, when he entered old age, when his wife left him due to cancer, his life seemed to lose all its luster and focus.
Therefore, in the year after the death of his wife, he lost his confidence in life and suffered from depression, which shows how fragile and unbearable the psychology of old age is.
met the head nurse Lian Yilian, it can be said that fate opened a window for Shen Zhuoran, who was on the verge of despair, and the director also cleverly arranged for Lian Yilian's first appearance to open the window for Shen Zhuoran.
Looking at the beautiful female figure standing in front of the window, as well as the lush and high-spirited scenery outside the window, Shen Zhuoran's inner belief in life was awakened.
With the encouragement and instigation of his old friend Lao Gou and grandson Duole, Shen Zhuoran started his "love journey".
曾经的他，信奉长期主义，信奉日久生情，可在经历携手四十年的妻子离世，自己得病又重获健康后，70岁的沈卓然，更相信”只争朝夕“，更喜欢”晴天爱晴，雨天爱雨“。
That's why after he was discharged from the hospital, he quickly lived with Lian Yilian, who was twenty years younger than him; He learned to make a loving breakfast, he would be like a young man, waiting for Yilian to get off work at the intersection one after another, and he would give up his independent study for Lian Yilian's son.
I have to say that Lian Yilian is very charming and gentle, and her timely appearance makes Lao Shen as obsessed and passionate as a stunned young man who has just fallen in love;
But there is another point, that is, the young Lian Yilian also made Shen Zhuoran temporarily forget his worries and fears about old age and loneliness, which is also the reason why Shen Zhuoran is especially affectionate to Lian Yilian among the four women.
So when Lian Yilian proposed to Lao Shen to take possession of his property, Lao Shen was shocked and unbelievable, he woke up like a dream, and only then did he see the truth of the old man's marriage.
I read that some book reviewers said that Shen Zhuoran just wanted to prostitute for nothing, not only occupying Lian Yipi's body, but also didn't want to give anything.
I don't agree with that.
I think that as Shen Zhuoran, who has never been materially deprived, he has never been concerned with Lian Yilian about property, otherwise he would not take the initiative to propose.
He just couldn't accept Lian Yilian's clear "equivalent exchange", when he proposed to transfer the real estate after a hundred years, Lian Yilian changed his face and asked, why should it be a hundred years later?
Shen Zhuoran said sadly,It turns out that the goodness of the two of us is conditional.
This seems to be what Shen Zhuoran said to Lian Yilian, but in fact, he didn't say it to himself, he was telling himself that when people are old, they must give up some material benefits in exchange for some spiritual comfort.
This is something that Shen Zhuoran, as a scholar and a seeker of the spiritual world, cannot tolerate and despise, so it is inevitable that he and Lian Yilian will be separated.
Two people don't care about right or wrong, but people with different frequencies really can't get close.
This is also the reason why in Shen Zhuoran's second "relationship", he will achieve spiritual resonance with the physically weak Nie Juanjuan.
Shen Zhuoran and Nie Juanjuan have never had physical intimacy, and even the real meeting of the two is only a handful, but they both provide each other with full emotional value, which also makes Shen Zhuoran, who has just experienced the blow of "falling out of love", successfully come out.
When Shen Zhuoran said to Lao Gou that I am still very grateful to Lian Yilian, he was relieved of his previous relationship, and he truly understood what Lian Yilian did.
But Nie Juanjuan's fragile body can't support the rest of Shen Zhuoran's life, not to mention that his wife also died of cancer brain metastasis, this kind of life and death parting, Shen Zhuoran doesn't want to experience it anymore and can't bear it.
He told his children that he would take Nie Juanjuan home to take care of him, but it was just a momentary mood, even if Sun Baoqin didn't speak, he knew that it was unrealistic to do so.
Nie Juanjuan finally left a farewell letter and went to a foreign country with her son, which also made Lao Shen enter a blank period of affection again.
Comrade Lu Yuan's vitality and vigor made Shen Zhuoran see a different old life, and he did not have the kind of love and affection between men and women for Lu Yuan, just out of help and mutual companionship, so from beginning to end, Shen Zhuoran called Lu Yuan "Comrade Lu Yuan".
In his opinion, he and Lu Yuan were just revolutionary friendships, and there was no personal relationship between men and women at all.
Shen Zhuoran's fourth "love object" Le Shuishan looks like his deceased wife, which also makes Shen Zhuoran mistakenly think that he is in love with Le Shuishan, but in fact, the two are just "substitutes" for each other.
At the wedding, Le Shuishan was robbed of her marriage by the black panther, and Shen Zhuoran once again became a loner.
But this time, Shen Zhuoran was not angry or ashamed, he smiled and took off the plaque of "A Hundred Years of Good Marriage" with his daughter, and solemnly rehung the portrait of his wife.
At this moment, Shen Zhuoran completed self-redemption and growth, he accepted the life trajectory from loneliness to old age, and re-planned his life.
Yes, accepting oneself to grow old, accepting the impermanence of fate, accepting birth, old age, sickness and death, this is the growth and summary of a person's life in this world.
After going around and around in episode 36, Shen Zhuoran returned to the origin of life and the starting point of life. He will start anew and continue to write the second half of his life.
沈青和刘丽娜两个人，从校园走进婚礼殿堂，共同经营婚姻近二十年，他们的感情基础是牢不可破的。
Shen Qing's cold violence, as well as his mental derailment, Ace Li, in the final analysis, are caused by a dull married life and increasing work pressure.
The father is old, the mother is dead, the wife has no income, and the son is going abroad, the seemingly glamorous Shen family is actually supported by Shen Qing alone.
And Liu Lina's meticulous care for herself, her mother-in-law's expectations and nagging, all became a ubiquitous spell on Shen Qing's head, which suffocated him and made him escape.
The appearance of Ace Li just gave Shen Qing an opportunity and reason to escape.
It should be said that Shen Qing never thought of divorcing Liu Lina, he just wanted to wander away and rebel for a while in the ambiguous atmosphere created by Ace Li.
Similarly, Liu Lina and Xiao Baimei came and went, but they also wanted to be angry with Shen Qing and want to give some stimulation to the uneventful marriage.
In essence, they are all in each other's blood, you have me, I have you, and no one can do without anyone.
In the final analysis, the economic crisis of middle-aged marriages is the biggest crisis and the root cause of the collapse.
Therefore, when Shen Qing's company went public, Liu Lina also came out of the shadow of being deceived and restarted a new career, and their relationship was resurrected.
Just like Shen Zhuoran said to the children, if you have to be hard and strong yourself, then there will be no flame mountain that you can't pass.
Only in this way can Shen Zhuoran be able to spend his old age in peace, and the marriage between Shen Qing and Liu Lina can be turned into a disaster.