My children still like to share their daily life with me, and Dabao has nothing to talk about with me from elementary school to university; Erbao went to kindergarten, and when he came home, he also talked to me about kindergarten endlessly.

Dabao is a freshman this year, went to college and set up a group with his parents, and often reports his study and life in the group, or text, or voice, or video. If I haven't seen the message for a few days, I will take the initiative to ask about the situation, and the child will always reply when he sees it, explaining the reason.

Sometimes I don't know much about what she said, and when I have doubts, I will look up on the Internet and tell her what I know, and she appreciates my understanding of her.

As the understanding of the situation deepens step by step, you will understand why the child chooses this way, believe in the child's ability, give loyal advice, and the child will think rationally and treat his future prudently.

There are usually several reasons why children never share their daily routines with their parents:

1. Always be educated

No matter what the child says to the parents, the parents always criticize the child, this is not good, that is not good, the parents are full of eager love, want to make the child better, but the child's original intention is just to talk to the parents about family life, but the result is that there are too many negative emotions, the mood of chatting plummets, and I feel that I can't do it in an instant.

After a long time, the child is disappointed, so he closes the door to communication, preferring to digest it by himself rather than share his daily routine with his parents, afraid of accusations. Therefore, parents should be patient to learn more about their children's situation, and do not criticize indiscriminately, although parents love their children, but children are also scared.

2. I don't like nagging

The child shares the daily life with the parents, and as soon as the mother talks to the child, she will talk endlessly, not to say that it will not end in an hour, and all aspects of the instructions are in place. Children have limited time, and if they want to say a few words, their mothers will talk endlessly, but they will feel a little nagging, which will increase their psychological burden.

Mothers care about their children, they should carefully observe the emotional changes of their children, and they can be comfortable with each other, so that they can calm down and devote themselves to learning, without putting too much pressure on their children, so that children can learn to manage themselves.

3. Fear of putting pressure on yourself

As soon as they talk and communicate with their parents, parents set goals for their children, how many students they will take in the latest exam, how many scores they should not be lower, which school they will be admitted to, whether they will go to university or graduate school, etc., parents and children are anxious.

Children also want to get good grades and have a better future, but the real life is "the strong have their own strong hands", "there are mountains outside the mountains, there are people outside the people," everyone lives in their own cognitive world, parents point to the end, let the parents' ideas become the children's own ideas, children do not need their parents to emphasize that they will work hard, such a relationship is comfortable with each other.

Write at the end

Parents want their children to communicate with themselves often, share their daily life, children will always be their parents' favorite, do not be a strong parent, listen more to what their children are saying, think more about what their children are thinking, correct guidance, put forward loyal suggestions, do not put too much pressure on children, cultivate children's sense of responsibility, children will be very happy to share with their parents, listen to their parents' experience.

Proofread by Zhuang Wu